I have been possessed with questions of death in recent times. Honestly, it is that time of the year, and I am naturally drawn to questions of that nature. This year, I feel different. I am not, as I have been in the past, consumed by my own impending demise, be it sooner or later. Instead, I find I am confronting the death of a relationship. Is it harder still for someone you love to die, or is it harder to lose someone who is still very much alive. My experience of both has not offered me clarity on the subject. They who I have loved and lost are just as missed as him that I love and the relationship that no longer is. Both are unfathomable. The only difference is that I chose for one to happen. So maybe then I am not allowed to mourn? If it was indeed my own doing, then can I claim sorrow over the passing? And when is it that I stop mourning? When do I stop wearing black and looking baleful, when the one I have lost is well and alive somewhere?
As usual, I have more questions than answers. There are days I wish that the earth would simply swallow me whole rather than allowing me to suffer in this manner. On other days however, the visceral nature of existence feels more attractive and immediate, and keeps me from myself. I am wishing for the latter.
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